You’ve been kicking it around for awhile now. But here we are, Monday morning and you’re halfway to work and you question if you really want to quit. I mean, maybe it’s not that bad? Then you get there and the suffocation really starts and you wonder how you’ll make it to lunch, much less 30 more years of this crap.
If this sounds like you, chances are you’re missing 5 of the biggest (and most obvious) warning signs that are all but begging you to get out of that job and onto your purpose!
All Your Reasons for Staying are Fear Based
When you think of staying at your job are all the positives a negative? Are you simply staying because you’re afraid you won’t find something better? Or your new business won’t take off? If your answers keeping you at your job are all because of hypothetical “what if my other dreams fail” scenarios, you need to take a good look at the price you’re paying for fear and get real with yourself that you hate this job and it’s time to leave.
We all experience fear, but those of us who’ve walked through it know that living a miserable life and keeping ourselves small because of self-doubt and crippling anxiety about the unknown is far more dangerous and way more scary than the known sacrifice of unhappiness.
Small Triggers = BIG Emotional Reactions
First, I want to preface this by saying I don’t believe there’s such a thing as “overreacting” – because what we think looks like overreaction, is usually a perfectly sized reaction to a beneath the surface problem.
If you’re easily agitated at work and you find yourself getting angry at run-of-the-mill customer or colleague requests, or regular duties such as meetings or occasionally staying late, you may want to consider what’s actually yanking your chain – especially if you can point to a time when a routine team meeting wouldn’t send you into a homicidal rage ( how many times can you ironically talk about growth with the same people?). This kind of rage is one of the biggest warning signs that you’re ready for a change – and the toxic energy you’re seething with isn’t good for you or your workmates.
When I worked as a waitress, I was starting to get to the point that if someone asked for a refill, I wanted to refill that drink – straight onto their lap. That was a HUGE wakeup call that I was ignoring the real issue and getting mad at people who frankly didn’t deserve it.
You Can Taste Blood
And I don’t mean that it was you in the break room with the stapler.
Have you said something to your boss, higher-up or colleague that was a wee bit snippy (or a lot bit) snippy? Are you finding that you have to bite your tongue SO hard these days?
If you’re starting to let your “true” feelings slip – it may be time to reconsider what’s making you this angry. Chances are it’s not your co-worker or even A-type boss. It’s more likely that it’s time to quit this job and move onto something that fits who you are now. You may have once loved this job – but that’s no different than loving a certain sweater of yours from fourth grade. Sure it’s yours and you loved it dearly – but there’s no way that thing fits you anymore, and if you try and make it fit it will cause nothing but pain and discomfort.
Pay close attention for 10 business days to how you talk to your colleagues and boss. If you’re saying things you wouldn’t have said a year ago – then it might be time to give yourself permission to move on.
Your IDGAF has kicked in
Late three days in a row? Show up unprepared for another staff meeting? Angry customer emails piling up, but you’re busy watching beauty tutorials on YouTube?
Yep. It’s official. You have a BAD case of the IDGAFs.
..and it’s dangerous.
Apathy at work soon turns to apathy at home and apathy at home soon spreads to apathy about your future. Sadly, a bad case of IDGAF escalates into “that’s not possible for me” or “success is for other people.” The minute you catch yourself not caring, it’s time to refocus on what you DO care about and start working on an exit strategy from the job that’s death eating the life from your soul. We only get one trip around the star, guys. Just one. There is no time not to care. There simply is no room to get comfortable with apathy. When you work from a place of purpose, you live in a place of empowerment. The more you DO, the more you believe you can do. And it all starts with caring enough to make the necessary changes.
You’re The “Realist”
Sure, you’ve thought about quitting your job, but you have decent health care, a steady paycheck and your bills are paid. You might be getting an ulcer and the doc keeps upping your Zoloft, but hey you’re a realist. And you’re damn proud of it.
Being a realist can also be a code word for fear. That doesn’t mean your responsibilities aren’t important. It’s just not a BIG enough reason to stop you from pursuing your happiness. I respect practical matters and a pragmatic approach just as much as the next person. But you CAN be a realist AND start a business. You can apply your realistic and practical approach to your own dream business and eventually quit the job you hate. The fact you’re practical is SO helpful to your dreams – and it won’t hinder them unless you decide to make it an excuse and not a resource.
If your answer is “I’m a realist” and that’s why I don’t quit this job – make a commitment to refocus your gift of pragmatism into your own passion project and start preparing a practical game plan to get your business off the ground. Don’t make the mistake of confusing being practical (a gift) with fear (a hinderance).
Starting a business, writing a book, pursuing any dream – it isn’t just for other people. It’s for YOU. When your higher purpose starts sending distress signals, listen. Working a job you hate forever because you think you have to isn’t necessary (in fact, it’s a bold faced lie) and it doesn’t have to be your reality.
What’s keeping you from leaving your job? What alarms are sounding off for you personally – and are you listening to them? If not, tell me why and what your biggest challenge is in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you!
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